Why is that?
Well if I had to look inside (Oh my it's dark in there) what I would see is not 1 woman but lots of beings with differing ideas about me, other people, my life, and how to get there.
Given that I am not one but many how do I achieve enough consensus to take action and be successful in life?
Well, STEP ONE is recognizing the fact that part of me wants success, part of me doesn't. When I have listened inside, I have heard that part of me is afraid of what it will mean if I am successful, part of me judges people who do succeed, part of me thinks I am not ready, part of me thinks I don't deserve it, and part of me just wants to have fun. Phew - - -who knew?
STEP TWO is slowing down, giving each Voice or Inner Aspect a chance to be heard safely, and mediating between them to achieve a functional agreement. When that happens my life becomes balanced; a circle dance of taking turns. My days have a little play, a chunk of focused work, moments to tell myself I'm wonderful, compassion, kindness and encouragement inside & out.
How about you? Have you met who is inside you? Have you heard what they need with compassion? Have you dialogued to achieve a consensus? How would you know?
If you have a great relationship, a fit body, a calm mind, an open heart, clarity of life purpose, action to achieve your dreams, and enough abundance to feel at ease than you have.
If you SAY you would like one (or more) of these things but just can't seem to get there, then there are other Aspects inside you with a different opinion. They are the ones who are putting the breaks on your dreams.
The Good News is that you can create your own personal United Nations. You can meet yourself darkness and light, bring compassion, and mediate differences. You can become the Queen or King of your Realm. It won't be easy. It will be magnificent. It will take daily, sometimes moment to moment, practice. It will take the time to listen inside. Writing. Journaling. Being guided on a Inner Journey. Or something else.
I used to be a food addict, sex & love addict, self-hater, with confusing relationships, and scarcity. Getting to know, love, face courageously, & negotiate with compassion with the Little Girl, Primal, Vampire, Priestess, Scholar, Mother, Rebel Teen, Monster, Saboteur, Machiavelli, Observer, and Arrogant Queen has supported my life to have greater clarity, purpose, ease & success. Whoo hoo!
And I'm not done. The process is never over. One day soon, another Aspect I have yet to listen to, meet, or have suppressed will arise. S/he will be noticed through the breakdowns, patterns, and upsets in my body & my life. Then I begin again.
You may be wondering why I am writing all this in some writings about promotion. The reason is because it is very hard to go all out in Self Promotion & Life Purpose when your Inner Team is fighting you all along the way. THE EASIEST WAY TO PROMOTE YOU is to be integrated and at peace with who you are (and are not). You've read the steps to get there. . . now practice - practice - practice.
May you know & love yourself, darkness & light, inside & out,